Jawed Khurshid

The youngsters feel comfortable talking to strangers and making friends on net. They not only chat but also share their personal problems with their chat friends. Have you ever thought this could be dangerous sometimes…

Shantanu Bose feels chatting is good way to make friends and it does. He says, “Question of whether it’s safe or not comes later after couple of sessions online. If we feel safe and comfortable then why not give a try. I even get to talk with girls on phone but then with whom I feel comfortable. I also try to be forthright and straight with those people that I get to talk on phone.” Sometimes people exchange their pictures and talk for a while then only the belief comes in to play. Moreover, if they feel the other person reliable then share their thoughts because without belief nothing could get started.  He says, “It’s a thrilling experience. If he or she is not trustworthy then you call it quit at that first meeting or first call. Play it safe until you are damn sure about the other person.

Sheetal Sabarwal, a computer engineer feels chatting is one of a way to entertain yourself where you don’t feel lonely. The more you chat, less you feel boar. She said “It’s my personal experience whenever, I feel low I talk to my friends on net and frankly speaking their advice not only works but always gives me a feeling that I have someone to share my feelings with. Again, I don’t share my personal problems with all net friends. I had very bad experience once when I was very new to Internet chatting. I discussed my family matter with him. We used to chat regularly. We exchanged pictures and cell numbers as well. In the beginning it was ok. But again when he got addicted to me he used to frequently give me call. He proposed me in spite of knowing that I have a boyfriend. When I refused and started avoiding him he tried to blackmail me.

Jay Sehagal regularly chats on net. He feels chatting is not a big deal. It all depends on the type of chatting and the nature and likeness of a chatting person. He says, “There are some people who gain access to other’s secrecy and make them emotional fool. So you have to keep your eyes as well as your mind open. In this fast and tumultuous life when one feels lonely then he or she wants someone to share feelings – they find chatting cathartic as it often allows them to release buried emotions.” Jay thinks it is safe if you are smart enough. And if you are sharing something with someone whom you don’t know personally then you also have to keep a thing in mind that you should not go out of limits. At times this can be harmful.

24 years old Payal Agarwal, having around fifty net friends, feels chatting is a coolest way to make friends. Talking to strangers is always a thrilling experience. “I do share my personal issues with my net friends but not with all. I share it only with those whom I know after the few sessions of chatting. Above all, I am chatting for the last few years and it is my experience that all male chat with female for one thing only and that is sex. When they do not get success in their nefarious act they try to do it with them in real. This is my personal experience,” She added.

Internet chatting has become a fashion among youngsters. The reason behind it is that these youngsters are so busy climbing the career ladders; there whole life today revolves around their jobs and their professions. They have no time to meet their friends and go for outing, this might be one of the reasons why we start talking to complete strangers,” Says experts.

According to Dr Geeta Joshi, people do not talk to strangers for friendship but for a sense of relief and a kind of ventilation, which is called Catharsis. When you hear strangers talking, sometimes you realize that they might be talking about their personal secrets that one would share only to close friends or relatives. One of the reasons for this could be that when you talk to a stranger you do not care of them been judgmental to what you are talking and their comments not are so important to you. This could be just one way of telling things out and forgetting about it.